10 жизнеутверждающих цитат от сильных и знаменитых

Хорошая мотивация еще никому не вредила, особенно если звучит она из уст людей, которые чего-то в этой жизни добились. В жизни происходит немало внезапных, как рак, гадостей, к которым мы оказываемся не готовы. Так что когда будет совсем трудно, загляни сюда.

1.

Отец «Фауста» одной только изящной цитатой уделал сразу две группы людей: тех, кто хвастается своим высшим образованием; и тех, кто удивляется, почему он всё еще не богат и не знаменит. Ведь какой толк от твоей прикладной математики, если ты не используешь знания по назначению, — с ее помощью яичницу не пожаришь и скидку не выторгуешь. Так что хвататься академическими знаниями, будучи безработными, как минимум смешно. Про желания и действия было сказано столько, что, наверное, лучше лишний раз не бесить.

2.

Лучший выход — всегда насквозь.

– Роберт Фрост –

Роберт Фрост — один из крупнейших поэтов в истории США, четырежды лауреат Пулитцеровской премии и человек, по мнению самих американцев, достойный Нобелевской премии больше, чем Роберт Циммерман. Человек воспитал целые поколения, повлиял на культуру и добился признания своим трудом и творчеством еще при жизни, так что ему можно верить.

Фрост как бы говорит нам, что во всех случаях лучше всего не отказываться от своей цели, обрасти панцирем броненосца и идти вперед. Но не нужно переть как немецкий танк на польских кавалеристов, никто не говорит, что нужно тупо идти напролом. Хитрость в таких делах только приветствуется. Главное, не давай заднюю своим планам, ведь во многих случаях лучше выйти через другую дверь, а не через ту, в которую зашел.

3.

Работа избавляет нас от трех зол: скуки, порока и нужды.

– Вольтер –

Видимо, любознательная немка Екатерина II вела переписку с великим мыслителем для того, чтобы он лишний раз напоминал ей: «Катюха, если будешь трудиться на благо Государства Россейского, то не будет времени на порок, блуд, интрижки с молоденькими графьями. Если не прекратишь тратить казну государственную на себя и своих мужиков, то не придется влезать в долги, а потом, после всего этого блуда, оправдываться на исповеди». И ты это запомни.

4.

Спасибо, Нельсон, будем знать. Вы тот самый человек, который показал человечеству, как пользоваться чайником, и что апартеид — не так уж плохо. На самом деле Нельсон имел в виду следующее: когда видишь, что ситуация дошла до своего критического пика, и дальше будет только хуже, избавься от источника, от того, что подогревает ситуацию. Например, от человека в своем окружении, благодаря которому все успели пересраться, а ты лично вляпаться в неприятную ситуацию. Или от работы, которая не оставляет места для жизни и вывозит грузовики мертвых нервных клеток.

5.

Расстояние между сумасшествием и гениальностью измеряется только успехом.

– Брюс Ферштейн –

Доподлинно не известно, кто сказал эту фразу первой, но большинство услышало ее впервые в восемнадцатом фильме Бондианы «Завтра не умрет никогда». Поэтому припишем ее сценаристу Брюсу Ферштейну.

А ведь действительно: взять того же Эйнштейна или Льва Ландау, которые если бы не достигли астрономических высот и не внесли огромный вклад в науку, то остались бы в истории как психически нездоровые люди. Но благодаря мировой славе к их странностям относились исключительно как к причудам.

Вот так всегда. Если ты чего-то добился — назовут тебя чудаковатым гением и будут во всем подражать, а ежели нет — закончишь дни под галоперидолом. Потому что гениям позволено все, даже таким шизофреникам, как Сальвадор Дали, а разговаривающего с самим собой пенсионера немедленно депортируют в дурдом.

6.

При герцогах Борджиа в Италии на протяжении 30 лет царили война, террор и убийства, зато Италия дала нам Микеланджело, Леонардо да Винчи и эпоху Возрождения. А что дала нам Швейцария за 500 лет демократии, братской любви и мира? Часы с кукушкой?

– Орсон Уэллс –

Совершенно нормально не любить или даже не знать творчество этого режиссера, хотя настоятельно рекомендуем посмотреть кинокартину «Гражданин Кейн», которая, несмотря на свою древность, не утратила актуальности и шарма. Но ненормально подвергать его фразу сомнению. Действительно, если посмотреть на историю, то там, где ключом била жизнь, вздымались ввысь фонтаны крови, а ситуация менялась чаще, чем времена года, появлялось что-то новое. Только страны, в которых конфликты внешние сменялись конфликтами внутренними, имели право на мировое господство — тот же СССР, США, колониальные державы, машущие тесаками во всем мире. Конечно, стабильность — это хорошо, но если ты хочешь сотворить нечто кардинально новое, то придется пройти через множество вещей неприятных и дискомфортных, в том числе и трагических. Множество достижений основано на крови, даже система безопасности автомобиля не была бы такой надежной без многочисленных катастроф.

7.

Под размером не обязательно учитывать физические данные, но и способности, стартовый капитал. Да что там, тот же самый физический недуг тоже стоит учитывать. Стивен Хокинг создал свои теории уже после болезни, и прикованность к креслу нисколько не сбавила его энтузиазм, скорее напротив. Так что совершенно не важно, сколько у тебя денег, где ты живешь, и насколько сильны твои интеллектуальные способности, — главное, чтобы было большое желание. А личность можно воспитать, как говорил Бунин: «Так плохо, как я, не начинал никто».

8.

Забавно в жизни вот что: если вы отказываетесь принимать любые вещи, кроме самых лучших, то очень часто именно их и получаете.

– Уильям Сомерсет Моэм –

Иногда в жизни нужно быть избирательным и слишком требовательным к окружающим тебя вещам. В этом нет ничего надменного, пафосного и неприличного, просто подобный перфекционизм позволяет фильтровать шлак. Если ты стараешься избавить себя от негатива, предательства и лишних забот, избегая сомнительных личностей и таких же точно авантюр, то скорее всего, ты с ними и не столкнешься вовсе. Так что автор «Бремени страстей человеческих» был абсолютно прав: живи с правильным настроем, будь избирательным, и невзгоды обойдут тебя стороной.

9.

Я ненавидел каждую минуту тренировки, но я сказал себе: «Не уходи, страдай сейчас и живи всю оставшуюся жизнь чемпионом.

– Мухаммед Али –

Вокруг полно нытиков, которые бросают начатое дело, придумывая кучу отмазок, начиная от «Я прогорел», и заканчивая «Это не то, чем я хотел заниматься». На самом деле причина ровно одна — неженки подумали, что одного желания и идеи достаточно, чтобы добиться успеха. Но нет, в жизни приходится пахать, чем бы ты ни занимался. Иногда через силу — никто не говорил, что будет легко и приятно. Так что если тебя что-то задолбало — не спеши это что-то бросать, потерпи, и воздастся за страдания. Вспомни школьную зубрежку — как тяжело давалась таблица умножения и прочая арифметика, и как легко ты пользуешься ею сейчас. Так и с любым трудом на начальном этапе. Не плачь, всё фигня, прорвемся.

10.

С одной стороны, следовать совету знаменитого писателя довольно опасно, ибо можно застрять в том болоте, от которого тебя предостерегали. Но с другой стороны, каждый человек уникален, и прожить две одинаковые жизни просто невозможно. К тому же большинство советчиков — это не самые успешные люди, которые просто пытаются добавить себе авторитета. В таком случае, конечно же, лучше поступать прямо противоположно. Ты скажешь: «Так какого черта я читаю ваши советы, если вы такие же неудачники?». Что ж, поступай как знаешь, но не пиши нам в редакцию с просьбой о помощи, когда окажешься в жопе.

Мудрые цитаты, которые могут изменить вашу жизнь

Временами жизнь может показаться очень сложной, и чем больше вы думаете и пытаетесь анализировать себя и своё окружение, тем больше возникает вопросов без ответа. Зачем нам нужно любить и быть любимыми? Откуда мы появились? Куда мы отправляемся, когда умираем? Почему мы умираем? И, в конце концов – в чём заключается смысл жизни? Многие мыслители, философы, активисты и артисты пытались ответить на эти вопросы за время своей жизни и оставили после себя невероятно богатое наследие, которое можно проследить по их самым вдохновляющим цитатам. Мы, естественно, не пытались анализировать или интерпретировать эти цитаты, потому что это было бы наивно, так как каждую из этих цитат можно интерпретировать различными способами, в зависимости от вашей точки зрения, ваших знаний и вашего расположения духа. С уверенностью можно сказать лишь одно – что большинство из этих цитат заставят вас задуматься и уже это, само по себе, является главной целью этого прекрасного списка. Поэтому прочтите эти двадцать пять мудрых цитат, которые могут изменить вашу жизнь:

25. Уильям Шекспир (William Shakespeare)

«Будь одинаково великим и в действии и в мыслях»

24. Оскар Уайльд (Oscar Wilde)

«Воображение дано человеку, чтобы утешить его в том, чего у него нет, а чувство юмора — чтобы утешить тем, что у него есть»

23. Бертран Рассел (Bertrand Russell)

«Если бы на сегодняшний день в мире было больше людей, которые желали бы собственного счастья больше, чем они желают несчастья других, через пару лет мы смогли бы жить в раю».

22. Аристотель (Aristotle)

«Любой может рассердиться — это легко, но рассердиться на нужного человека, до нужной степени, в нужное время, по нужному поводу и нужным образом — нелегко»

21. Альберт Эйнштейн (Albert Einstein)

«Нельзя обвинять гравитацию в том, что люди влюбляются. Как вы объясните в терминах химии и физики такое важное биологическое явление, как первая любовь? Положите вашу руку на горячую плиту на минуту, и эта минута покажется вам часом. Час, проведенный в обществе любимой девушки, покажется вам минутой. Это и есть теория относительности»

20. Элеонора Рузвельт (Eleanor Roosevelt)

«Никто не заставит вас чувствовать себя неполноценным без вашего согласия»

19. Наполеон I Бонапарт (Napoleon Bonaparte)

«Сильным является тот человек, который может по желанию пресечь связь между чувствами и разумом»

18. Платон (Plato)

«Хорошим людям не нужны законы, чтобы действовать ответственно, а плохие люди найдут способ обойти законы».

17. Фридрих Ницше (Friedrich Nietzsche)

«То, что нас не убивает — делает нас сильнее»

16. Джидду Кришнамурти (Jiddu Krishnamurti)

«Гитлер и Муссолини были лишь главными делегатами желания господства и власти, которые находятся в сердце почти каждого человека. До тех пор, пока источник не очистится, в мире всегда будет заблуждение и ненависть, войны и классовый антагонизм»

15. Гераклит Эфесский (Heraclitus)

«Нельзя дважды войти в одну и ту же реку»

14. Марсель Пруст (Marcel Proust)

«Не существует человека, каким бы мудрым он ни был, который в какой-то период в своей молодости не наговорил бы вещей или не повёл себя таким образом, о котором он горько сожалеет во взрослой жизни и о чём он, с удовольствием забыл бы, если бы мог».

13. Мартин Лютер Кинг (Martin Luther King Jr)

«Если вы не можете лететь — бегите, если вы не можете бежать — шагайте, если вы не можете шагать — ползите, но что бы вы ни делали, вы должны двигаться вперед»

12. Лао-цзы (Lao Tzu)

«Будьте довольны тем, чем вы владеете, радуйтесь тому, что есть на данный момент. Когда вы поймёте, что ни в чём не нуждаетесь, вы будете владеть всем миром»

11. Винсент Ван Гог (Vincent Van Gogh)

«Чем больше я об этом думаю, тем яснее я понимаю, что ничто не является более художественным, чем любовь к другим»

10. Десмонд Туту (Desmond Tutu)

«Разве не замечателен тот факт, что все мы сделаны по образу божьему, но, несмотря на это, люди настолько разнообразны?»

9. Виктор Гюго (Victor Hugo)

«Гражданская война? Что это значит? Разве существует иностранная война? Разве любая война не является войной между людьми, между братьями?»

8. Будда (Buddha)

«Не размышляйте о прошлом, не думайте о будущем, сконцентрируйтесь на настоящем»

7. Сократ (Socrates)

«Чего ты не хочешь, чтобы сделали тебе, того не делай никому другому»

6. Махатма Ганди (Mahatma Gandhi)

«Живи так, будто завтра умрешь. Учись так, будто проживешь вечно»

5. Конфуций (Confucius)

«Выбери работу, которую любишь, и тебе не придется проработать ни одного дня в твоей жизни»

 

4. Альбер Камю (Albert Camus)

«Я предпочту прожить свою жизнь так, будто бог существует и, умерев, узнать, что его нет, чем прожить свою жизнь так, будто бога нет и умерев, узнать, что он существует»

3. Вольтер (Voltaire)

«Опасно быть правым, когда правительство ошибается»

2. Рене Декарт (René Descartes)

«Я мыслю, значит, существую»

1. Эпикур (Epicurus)

«Смерть не должна нас беспокоить, потому что когда существуем мы, смерти не существует, а когда существует смерть, не существует нас»

Сильные цитаты, фразы и высказывания со смыслом

Дайте угадаю…

Вы часто загружаете себя работой, но при этом появляется ощущение, будто бы дни одинаковые.

Возможно, у вас возникает ощущение, что вы живете на автопилоте.

Бывают даже моменты, когда вам начинает казаться, что ваша жизнь не имеет смысла и вы теряете четкое ощущение целей.

Я угадал?

Иногда, все что вам необходимо, это прочесть вдохновляющие цитаты, которые подарят вам новый взгляд на жизнь.

Можно встретить множество мудрых слов и многие из них действительно хороши, но жизнь не меняется.

Эти 29 тщательно отобранные мудрые цитаты можно даже назвать как самые сильные цитаты всех времен, ведь в них собрана многовековая мудрость известных и умных людей.

Вот они…

Каждый из нас гений. Но если судить рыбу по ее умению лазить по деревьям, она проживет всю жизнь, считая себя глупой.Альберт Эйнштейн

Перед тем, как диагностировать у себя депрессию или заниженную самооценку, убедитесь, что не находитесь в окружении дураков.Зигмунд Фрейд

Занимаясь поисками счастья для других, вы найдете его в себе.Неизвестный автор

Любовь — это глагол. Любовь — это чувство, которое является плодом любви.Стивен Кови

У человека можно забрать все, кроме одного: человеческой свободы — способности выбирать свое отношение к сложившейся ситуации и выбора собственного пути.Виктор Франкл

Успех — это способность терпеть неудачу снова и снова без потери энтузиазма.Уинстон Черчиль

Вы должны изменить себя, если хотите увидеть изменение в мире.Ганди

Трудности — это то, что делает жизнь интересной и осмысленной, придавая ей значимость.Джошуа Дж Марин

Если вы хотите часик побыть счастливым — вздремните. Если хотите счастья на день — сходите на рыбалку. Если вы хотите быть счастливым в течении года — унаследуйте состояние. Если хотите сделать всю жизнь счастливой — помогите кому-нибудь еще.Китайская пословица

Обстоятельства никогда не сделают жизнь невыносимой, но это могут сделать отсутствие цели и смысла.Виктор Франкл

Ум, который расширяется новым опытом, никогда не сможет вернуться к своим старым размерам.

90000 50 Harsh facts of life — Part 1 — Life Lessons 90001 90002 90003 «The world is a vicious and brutal place. We think we’re civilized. In truth, it’s a cruel world and people are ruthless. They act nice to your face, but underneath they’re out to kill you. Even your friends are out to get you: they want your job, they want your house, they want your money, they want your wife, and they even want your dog. Those are your friends; your enemies are even worse! » — Donald Trump, 45th US President 90004 90005 90002 Last Sunday, Stephen Paddock, a 64 year old retired accountant, shocked the world when he shot at an estimated crowd of 22,000 people attending a country music festival with an AK-47 and an AR-15 Assault rifle from his hotel room on the 32nd floor of the Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas, killing 58 and wounding 489 others, triggering a stampede in the deadliest massacre in American history.90005 90002 Why did he do it? No one knows. 90005 90002 What I do know is that mass shootings in America are on the rise, and the Las Vegas strip shooting was just one of more than 1500 mass shootings that have occurred in America in the last 5 years. 90005 90002 This year alone there have been more than 345 mass shootings in America (the number grows larger every day), and that includes more than 10 since the Las Vegas strip shooting last week. These numbers are on par to the 383 mass shootings that occurred in America in 2016, and the 333 mass shootings that occurred in 2015.90005 90002 90015 Fact: 90016 90015 There are more mass shootings in America than there are days in the year. 90016 90005 90002 Mass shootings however, are just one of the many problems of our modern age. Natural disasters are on the rise, anxiety, depression and stress is at an all time high, and then we’ve got assholes like Al-Qaeda flying planes into buildings, or pieces of shit like ISIS cutting people’s heads off, throwing them off the tops of buildings and burning them alive in cages.90005 90002 90003 «Since 2000, there have been over 61,000 terrorist attacks, killing more than 140,000 people.» — Global Peace Index 90004 90005 90002 Most people do not like to think about these things and I understand why. They’re uncomfortable. They can be depressing. No one wants to think about mass shootings, terrorism or death. They’re not exactly feel good topics. But I think tragic events and the ugly side of life can actually serve as a wake up call. 90005 90002 There are certain ugly truths about life that no one likes to admit: Life is not fair, the bad guys often win, everyone is lying to you, and the only thing guaranteed is death.90005 90002 We all know it and now I’m saying it. 90005 90002 This article is going to be honest. Brutally honest. Probably more honest than you’re comfortable with, and a lot more real than you’re used to. 90005 90002 Do not read this article if you’re easily offended or upset, or if you’re currently feeling depressed or sad, because it’s likely to push a lot of your buttons and only make you feel worse. 90005 90002 However, if you’re a truth seeker like me, and you want the facts 90003 more 90004 than you want to feel good, then this article is for you.Because I’m going to share with you a number of harsh truths that you probably do not want to hear, but you’re better off knowing. Because ignorance IS NOT bliss. Turning a blind eye to your problems WILL NOT help you. It’s better to face facts and to see things the way they really are, even if 90003 «the truth hurts» and is «a bitter pill to swallow.» 90004 90005 90002 Knowledge is power and if you know something you can do something. 90005 90002 The sooner you can accept these harsh facts of life the better.90005 90002 Here are the 50 harsh facts of life … 90005 90048 90015 50. You were probably an accident 90016 90051 90002 Let’s be honest: You were probably an accident. Most parents are not exactly conscious creators. 90005 90002 90003 «Approximately 50 percent of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned, and of these, 43 percent will end in abortion.» — Shriverreport 90004 90005 90002 Worldwide the stats are not much different. There are more than 50 million abortions performed around the world each year (125, 000 per day / one per second).These stats probably explain why so many parents are crappy and selfish and could seem to care less about their children. They did not really want them in the first place. They just wanted unprotected sex and a happy ending without consequences. 90005 90002 Let’s be honest: Your parents did not ask for «you». They did not choose «you». They did not even know they were going to get «you». They had no idea what you would be like, what you would look like, what kind of personality you would have, if you would be a boy or girl (at least not at first), or anything else.90005 90002 Even if your parents planned to start a family, and really wanted children, it was never about «you». Your mother simply wanted «a baby», in the same way a woman wants «a man». But they did not ask for «you». They did not choose «you». «You» could have been anyone. 90005 90048 90015 49. Your parents suck 90016 90051 90002 90003 «Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.» — P.J. O’Rourke 90004 90005 90002 Lots of kids grow up hating their parents and it’s not hard to understand why.90005 90002 Let’s be honest: Most parents suck. They do not do a good job of raising their kids and they do not prepare them well for the real world. They do not know what they’re doing, and worst of all they do not care. No wonder their kids hate them. 90005 90002 Most adults / parents are still children themselves, selfish and self-centered, childish and egotistical, even if they are in adult bodies and happen to have grey hair. It’s not like they had to qualify for the job either. Let’s face it: Parents are just regular people that fucked without protection.Any idiot could have done it. Most idiots do. 90005 90002 90003 «The average 70-year-old, is just an 11-year-old with 59 years of experience.» — Jed McKenna 90004 90005 90002 I’m sick of the bullshit lie: 90003 «Your parents did the best they could» 90004. 90005 90002 What a fucking load of shit. Really? ALL parents? Yes I’m sure 90003 some 90004 parents did the best they could, but let’s be honest: MOST did not. Most parents were average at best. Some parents abused their children. Some molested their children.Some tortured their children. Some murdered their children. 90005 90002 Tell me which of these two statements is true in your experience: 90005 90002 a) Your parents did the best they could 90005 90002 b) Your parents did whatever they felt like doing, depending on how they were feeling in the moment 90005 90002 How many people do you know that are great parents anyway? Some? A few? Any? 90005 90002 Look around you at the people you know that have kids, including your friends and family, and ask yourself: Would you have liked them as your parents? 90005 90002 The answer is probably «NO.»90005 90002 Why? Because most adults are still children themselves, childish and egotistical, selfish and stupid. Not exactly what you’re looking for in an ideal parent. 90005 90002 Not only do most parents suck but they have children for all the wrong reasons too. 90005 90002 Stupid reasons people have children: 90005 90108 90109 I’m lonely 90110 90109 I do not want to be lonely later on in life 90110 90109 I do not want to look back one day and realise I missed out 90110 90109 My biological clock is ticking 90110 90109 My friends have children 90110 90109 My parents want grandchildren 90110 90109 My family are nagging me 90110 90109 It’s our culture 90110 90109 A baby will save my marriage 90110 90109 My partner is threatening to leave and it will make them stay 90110 90109 It’s what people do 90110 90131 90002 In my experience: 90005 90108 90109 Generally speaking, it’s the people that 90003 should not 90004 have kids that have the most kids, they then either completely neglect them, or do a shitty job of raising them 90110 90109 Most people who have children do so for all the wrong reasons (see above), and have not really thought it through.They like the 90003 idea 90004 of having children, but they’re not ready for the 90003 reality 90004 of children. They imagine the cute 4 year old, but not the difficult teenager, or the LIFELONG COMMITMENT that having a child entails 90110 90109 It’s generally the woman that wants «a baby», not the man. Most men are indifferent towards having children. They do not care either way. This probably explains why there are so many crappy fathers in the world. They did not really want kids in the first place.They just stupidly got a woman pregnant and then went along with it 90110 90109 Most women are far more concerned with being perceived as a «good mother», than they are in actually 90003 being 90004 a good mother. 90110 90109 Most men would prefer the single life and freedom, than to being fathers and spending time with their kids 90110 90109 Not only do most parents not know what they’re doing, most of them do not care, and they seek out little to no education on parenting, whilst simultaneously refusing to be told by anyone else.90003 «Do not tell me how to raise my kids!» 90004 90110 90131 90002 If you’re wondering whether you’re a good parent, or if your parents were good parents, consider the following … 90005 90002 Signs of bad parenting: 90005 90108 90109 Abuse of any kind: physical, mental, emotional, verbal 90110 90109 Being overly critical 90110 90109 Being selfish and putting your own needs before those of your children 90110 90109 Comparing your child with other children, or with their siblings 90110 90109 Lack of compliments and praise 90110 90109 Lack of discipline / too much discipline 90110 90109 Neglecting your child / not spending enough quality time with your children, and always being too busy and emotionally unavailable 90110 90109 Not allowing your child to express anger or any other ‘negative’ emotions 90110 90109 Not consciously raising your child to be an adult man or woman / Not preparing your child for the real world (allowing them to stay a child) 90110 90109 Publicly embarrassing or shaming your child in front of others 90110 90109 Trying to control and manipulate your child with fear, guilt, or shame 90110 90109 Trying to force hobbies and interests down your childs throat 90110 90109 Withholding love and affection from your child whenever you do not get your way 90110 90131 90002 I’d love to see some kind of parental screening test in place to prevent shitty people from becoming shitty parents who raise shitty kids, who will grow up one day to become shitty parents once again repeating the cycle.90005 90002 My advice: 90005 90108 90109 Do not have kids if you’re still a kid yourself 90110 90109 Do not have kids if you value your alone time or quiet time 90110 90109 Do not have kids if you’re deeply in debt and / or do not have any money 90110 90109 Do not have kids if you still have major goals you wish to achieve e.g. starting a business or traveling the world 90110 90109 Do not have kids if you’re selfish and unwilling to put them first 90110 90109 Do not have kids to try to save your marriage or your relationship 90110 90109 Men do not just have children to make your girlfriend or wife happy.Have children because YOU want to have children. And know WHY you want to have children. 90110 90109 If you do have kids, do a better job than you parents did — even if they did a great job. Learn from the mistakes of your parents and from other parents and try not to make them yourself. 90110 90109 Raise your children to be confident, intelligent, self-sufficient adults. Do not be selfish. Put the needs of your children before your own. 90110 90131 90002 I remember something Larry Moss a famous acting coach from Los Angeles said at an acting masterclass I attended: 90005 90002 90003 «You do not owe your parents anything, but you owe your children everything».90004 90005 90002 I agree 100%. 90005 90002 90003 «Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories. » — John Wilmot 90004 90005 90002 PS: I do think most parents are getting better each generation. My parents were better than their parents who I’m sure were better than their parents. Still, we’ve got a long way to go. 90005 90048 90015 48. You will not find your soul mate 90016 90051 90002 90003 «There’s no such thing as the perfect soul mate.If you meet someone and you think they’re perfect, you better run as fast as you can in the other direction. ‘Cos your soulmate is the person that pushes all your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis, and makes you face your shit. » — Madonna 90004 90005 90002 Are you looking for your soul mate? 90005 90002 Sorry to break it to you but you’ll never find your ‘soul mate’ because there is no such thing as a ‘soul mate’. There is probably no one on earth that you are perfectly compatible with.90005 90002 Yes, there are certain personality types that you will always be more compatible with, and certain physical features that you will always be more attracted to, but let’s not confuse attraction and compatibility with the Hollywood myth of a ‘soul mate’ because it doesn ‘t exist. 90005 90002 If you’re a teenager or someone in your early twenties reading this, you probably do not believe me, or want to believe me, but answer this question: 90005 90002 How many people do you know that are with their ‘soul mate’? 90005 90002 Any? 90005 90002 I do not.90005 90002 If soulmates existed surely you or I would know of some famous Hollywood celebrity that was with their soulmate. 90005 90002 But can you name anyone? 90005 90002 I can not. 90005 90002 Yes, I know people get married and lie to themselves and others, and tell everyone they know that they got ‘the one’ they really wanted and OMG they could not be happier! 90005 90002 … But most of the time they did not. They just settled for whoever they could get. 90005 90002 I’m 37 and the truth is most people my age have given up looking for ‘the one’ long ago.They could not get ‘the one’ — so they just settled for any-one. It sounds desperate and sad, but it’s true. 90005 90002 The truth is that when people get to a certain age (the age differs depending on the person), they get tired of looking and just want to settle down. So their standards drop dramatically (especially women) and they settle for whoever they can get. Seriously, whoever is around at the time and is willing to settle down, get married, and / or have a family. 90005 90002 I’ve seen a ton of good looking women with the highest of standards, that thought they were too good for anyone, hit a certain age (early — mid thirties) and then BOOM! Their standards PLUMMETED and 90003 almost 90004 any guy could get them, so long as they were willing to settle down and make a commitment of some kind.90005 90002 Believe it or not this is how lots of families start and depending on your age and where you come from, it might be the way your parents started your family too, with one (or both), of your parents sick and tired of looking , and just deciding to settle down for whoever was around at the time. 90005 90048 90015 47. Your marriage will not last 90016 90051 90002 90275 90005 90002 An estimated 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.(These stats are way lower for arranged marriages which westerners often mock but are way more successful and only have a 5% divorce rate). 90005 90002 But the marriage you choose, yeah the odds of that marriage lasting are not good. 90005 90002 Even perfect celebrity fairy tale marriages do not last. Someone either cheats or something goes wrong, or people just grow apart over time. 90005 90108 90109 Charles and Diana’s marriage did not last 90110 90109 Michael Jackson’s marriage did not last 90110 90109 Michael Jordan’s marriage did not last 90110 90109 Paul McCartney’s marriage did not last 90110 90109 Tiger Woods marriage did not last 90110 90109 Madonna’s marriage did not last 90110 90109 Brad Pitt and Angela Jolie ‘Brangelina’ did not last 90110 90109 + Every other celebrity marriage did not last 90110 90131 90002 Your parents ‘marriage probably did not last either and that’s why you probably have step parents.90005 90002 If you’re not careful your marriage (if you get married) will not last either. 90005 90002 So what’s the solution? Sometimes there is no solution. Sometimes people who were once perfectly compatible just slowly grow apart over time. 90005 90002 My advice: Take your time to get married. Do not just rush into it. Live with your partner for at least one year beforehand. Accept the person for who they are and do not try to change them. Communicate openly and honestly and if there is something you do not like, do not turn a blind eye to it and pretend it’s not happening.90005 90002 *** Men get a prenuptial agreement *** 90005 90048 90015 46. Your husband / wife will cheat on you 90016 90051 90002 90316 90005 90002 My parents cheated on each other. (Leading to the breakup of their marriage) 90005 90002 Your parents probably cheated on each other too. (Maybe breaking up their marriage) 90005 90002 And if you get married / are married, it’s more than likely that either you or your partner (or both) will cheat on each other. 90005 90002 Although 50% of men and women admit to cheating in their marriages, I think the real number is much higher.Most marriages are unfaithful. 90005 90002 What constitutes cheating anyway? 90005 90002 Is not flirting with the opposite sex when you’re already in a committed relationship a kind of cheating? 90005 90002 I think if you do not want your partner to find out about it, then it’s a sign of unfaithfulness. 90005 90002 Why do people cheat? 90005 90002 I can not speak for women but I can tell you why men cheat … 90005 90002 The biggest reason men cheat, (apart from the fact that men love sex) is they want 90003 sexual variety 90004.90005 90002 It does not matter how beautiful a woman is, even if a man is married to Ms Universe or the sexiest woman who ever lived, he’ll still fantasize about sleeping with other women. Why? Because he wants sexual variety. If he’s sleeping with a blonde, he’ll fantasize about brunettes. If he’s sleeping with a brunette, he’ll fantasize about blondes. Or Asians. Or Black girls. Or whatever. Something different. 90005 90002 Even if a man is married to a ‘perfect 10’, he’ll fantasize about other ‘perfect 10s’, or just regular ‘average’ looking women.In fact, men cheat on their beautiful wives and hot girlfriends all the time with average looking women. They just want variety. 90005 90002 When a man cheats it’s nothing personal, and men do not do it to hurt, they just want sexual variety. (I’m not condoning cheating) 90005 90002 PS: Obviously if a man is in a sexless marriage he’s going to cheat because men have needs and if he can not get it at home, he’ll be forced to get it elsewhere. 90005 90048 90015 45. No one wants you to be yourself 90016 90051 90002 90353 90005 90002 90003 «No one wants you to be yourself.They want you to be the version of yourself that they like «- Marie Lu 90004 90005 90002 Most of us have heard the single worst piece of dating advice ever: 90003 «Just be yourself!» 90004 90005 90002 What terrible advice. No one wants you to be yourself. Everyone wants you to be whoever they want you to be. That’s why people are always trying to influence, persuade, manipulate and change you. 90005 90002 How many people do you know (including your friends, family, boyfriend / girlfriend) that accept you for who you are warts and all without trying to change you? 90005 90002 Not many.90005 90002 «Just be yourself» is worthless advice. It’s like saying «Do not make any effort at all». Because who would need to make an effort to be themselves? You already 90003 are 90004 yourself. 90005 90002 Instead of being yourself: I say be the best you can be. 90005 90002 Another reason «just be yourself» is worthless advice: What if someone is an asshole? What if they’re a bitch or a bully? What if they’re just a terrible and nasty person? What if they have an anti-social disorder, or psychotic or sociopathic tendencies? What if they love to insult and hurt people? Should they just «be themselves»? 90005 90002 I’d rather they did not.90005 90002 90003 «Just be yourself ‘is about the worst advice you can give some people.» — Alain de Botton 90004 90005 90048 90015 44. 90016 90015 No one is listening to you 90016 90051 90002 90003 «Advice unearned tends to go unheeded.» — Druidic saying 90004 90005 90002 When I was younger I was a talker. I loved to dominate conversations and tell people what I thought about things. 90005 90002 Until one day I realized something: No one’s listening and no one cares. 90005 90002 Seriously 99% of the people you offer advice to: 90005 90108 90109 Are not listening 90110 90109 Do not want to hear it 90110 90109 Do not care what you think 90110 90109 Have already made their mind up 90110 90109 Are just waiting for their turn to talk 90110 90109 Will not remember it later 90110 90109 Will not take action on it 90110 90131 90002 So why waste your breath? 90005 90002 It took me a long time to realise the following: 90005 90419 90109 Advice unearned tends to go unheeded 90110 90109 If someone is not (yet) suffering because of their ignorance, they often do not appreciate good advice when it comes their way 90110 90109 Even if you give someone the greatest advice of all time, if they’re not ready or willing to listen, they will not.It does not matter how incredible or life changing your advice may be. 90110 90109 Sometimes people just are not ready for what you have to tell them. Maybe they will be in a few years, or in a decade from now, but maybe right now they just need to make their own mistakes and suffer the consequences of their ignorance a little bit, before they will start to listen. 90110 90428 90002 Is not this true in your experience? 90005 90002 Have you ever regretted wasting time trying to help someone who did not want to be helped, or trying to talk to someone who did not want to listen? 90005 90002 I know I have.90005 90002 I’ve wasted thousands of hours trying to help people who did not want to be helped. Especially family members and friends. 90005 90002 My advice: 90005 90108 90109 Do not offer advice or try to talk to people who do not want to listen 90110 90109 Do not try to help someone who does not want to be helped and / or will not do anything to help themselves 90110 90109 Do not waste your time and energy where it’s not wanted or appreciated 90110 90131 90002 If someone asks for your advice, test them: Offer them a 90003 small 90004 suggestion, and then pay close attention to see if they take it or not.90005 90002 If they take your advice — offer more advice. 90005 90002 If they ignore your advice — do not waste your breath offering them any more advice. 90005 90002 Because if they’re not even willing to do the little things, they definitely will not do the big things, and there is absolutely no point in wasting your precious time and energy on someone who does not appreciate it. 90005 90048 90015 43. 90016 90015 No one is sorry for the way they’ve treated you 90016 90051 90002 90003 «Apologies are great, but they do not really change anything.You know what does? Action. » — 90004 90466 Stella Young 90467 90005 90002 90003 «I’m sorry.» 90004 90005 90002 How empty and insincere these words often are. 90005 90002 When most people say 90003 «I’m sorry», 90004 or even more condescendingly 90003 «I’m sorry you feel that way» 90004, what they really mean is they’re sorry they got caught, and they’re hoping that the word «sorry» can be used as some kind of magical get out of jail free card, to escape the consequences of their actions, to avoid any uncomfortable conversations, and to excuse them from any and all unacceptable behavior.90005 90002 90003 «A non-apology apology, is a statement in the form of an apology that does not express remorse. Saying «I’m sorry you feel that way» to someone who has been offended by a statement is a non-apology apology. It does not admit there was anything wrong with the remarks made, and may imply the person took offense for hypersensitive or irrational reasons. » — Wikipedia 90004 90005 90002 Or, if they’ve screwed up really bad (like if they’ve back-stabbed you, cheated on you, or stolen from you), they might try to use the word «sorry», in a pathetic last minute attempt to avoid an argument or a fight, or to save the friendship / relationship.90005 90002 The truth is most people are NOT sorry for what they’ve done or for the way they’ve treated you. They do not feel bad about it and they do not regret it. They knew exactly what they were doing when they did it, and there was nothing accidental or unintentional about it. In fact, it was done consciously and deliberately with intent. 90005 90002 In reality, given the exact same circumstances, 95% would do the exact same thing all over again in a heartbeat, even if it would hurt or upset you.90005 90002 If someone will not apologize and change their behavior until you get mad and call them out on their crap, or until they’re caught in the act and threatened with consequences and punishment, they’re not really sorry, and you shouldn ‘ t accept their bullshit apology. 90005 90048 90015 42. You have no friends 90016 90051 90002 Not many real ones anyway. 90005 90002 Most friendships are based purely on convenience and on what one ‘friend’ can get from the other ‘friend’. 90005 90002 However as soon as one ‘friend’ is not getting what they want from the other ‘friend’ the ‘friendship’ is over.90005 90002 How many friends do you have that truly accept and love you for you? 90005 90002 How many friends do you have that put your needs before their own? 90005 90002 Not many. Unlike Facebook friends, real friends are hard to come by. 90005 90002 Most of your so-called ‘friends’, are nothing more than acquaintances, or fake friends disguised as real ones. 90005 90002 Signs of a fake friend: 90005 90108 90109 They only contact you when they need something 90110 90109 They only hang out when it’s convenient for them 90110 90109 They talk crap and gossip about you behind your back 90110 90109 They’re always trying to change you or manipulate you 90110 90109 They’re constantly criticizing you and talking down to you 90110 90109 They only want to talk about themselves and their problems, but never about you or what’s going on in your life 90110 90109 They’re selfish and self-centered and will never put your desires, wants or needs before their own 90110 90109 You can never depend on rely upon them 90110 90109 They will not hesitate to break a commitment or a promise the second it suits them 90110 90109 They’re never there for you when times are tough and you need them most 90110 90109 You find it difficult to be yourself and lower your guard when you’re around them 90110 90109 After an argument, disagreement or fight, they stop talking to you 90110 90109 You make all of the effort and they make none 90110 90131 90002 My advice is this: If you want a friend, be a friend.Be the kind of friend you would like to have. Be the kind of person you would like to meet. Speak to others the way you would like to be spoken to. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. 90005 90002 Do not put up with fake friends or tolerate any kind of bad behavior from people who call themselves your ‘friends’. Even if you’ve been ‘friends’ for several years. 90005 90002 Remember: Just because someone is friendly, that does not mean they’re your friend. 90005 90002 And if someone is being a shitty friend — tell them.If they do not listen or do not change their behavior (which they probably will not if they’re selfish), cut them off. Believe me you’re better off without them. You lose nothing when you lose fake friends. I’ve cut off many fake friends in the past and I’ve always been glad I did. In fact, I’ve often wished I’d done it sooner. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say! 90005 90002 90003 «You do not lose when you lose fake friends.» — Joan Jett 90004 90005 90048 90015 41. Everyone is lying to you 90016 90051 90002 90003 «Deceit makes our world go round.Without lies, marriages would crumble, workers would be fired, egos would be shattered, governments would collapse. » — A. J. Jacobs 90004 90005 90002 When you’re younger you tend to believe everything people say. 90005 90002 But as you get older you start to realize something … Everyone is lying to you! Friends, family, parents, teachers, schoolmates, workmates, bosses, neighbors, strangers, advertisers, businesses, celebrities, the police, politicians, the government, gurus, religious and spiritual leaders etc.everyone is full of shit! 90005 90002 Everyone lies all the time about everything. People lie to your face. They lie on their CVs. They lie at job interviews. They lie on dates. They lie under oath. They swear to God and lie. Men lie. Women lie. Children lie. Celebrities lie. Presidents lie. 90005 90002 Why do people lie? 90005 90108 90109 To avoid taking responsibility 90110 90109 To avoid embarrassment and save face 90110 90109 To avoid having to do someone else a favor 90110 90109 To avoid hurting someone else’s feelings 90110 90109 To avoid punishment 90110 90109 To sound important / impressive 90110 90109 To influence / persuade / manipulate you 90110 90109 To get what they want 90110 90109 To get out of something they do not want to do 90110 90109 They even lie for no reason! (Because they’re addicted to it) 90110 90131 90002 Instead of telling you the truth, most people tell you: 90005 90108 90109 What they want you to hear 90110 90109 What they want you to believe 90110 90109 What they think you want to hear 90110 90109 What they think will produce the desired result 90110 90109 Whatever it takes to cover their ass or to make you shut up and stop asking questions 90110 90131 90002 My advice: Do not trust anyone to tell you the truth, or to do what they say they were ‘gonna’ do.Instead, trust people to be themselves, to act in their own best interests, and above all, to do what they’ve always done. 90005 90002 … And if you want to know what someone really thinks, pay more attention to what they do than to what they say, and listen with your eyes and not just with your ears, because people may lie with their words but they NEVER lie with their actions. 90005 90048 90015 Recap 90016 90051 90002 Let’s do a quick recap of 50-41: 90005 90002 50. You were probably an accident 90005 90002 49.Your parents suck 90005 90002 48. You will not find your soul mate 90005 90002 47. Your marriage will not last 90005 90002 46. Your husband / wife will cheat on you 90005 90002 45. No one wants you to be yourself 90005 90002 44. No one is listening to you 90005 90002 43. No one is sorry for the way they’ve treated you 90005 90002 42. You have no friends 90005 90002 41. Everyone is lying to you 90005 90048 90015 Summary 90016 90051 90002 This is part 1 of a 5 part series: 50 Harsh Facts of Life.90005 90002 If you would like to read the other articles in the series here they are: 90005 90002 Harsh Facts of Life — Part 2 90005 90002 Harsh Facts of Life — Part 3 90005 90002 Harsh Facts of Life — Part 4 90005 90002 Harsh Facts of Life — Part 5 90005 90002 Or if you would like to read my other articles: Life Lessons All Articles 90005 90002 This series is not about being negative or pessimistic, nor is it about seeing the worst in other people or in life itself. Rather, it’s about seeing things as they are and dealing with them as they are, even if the truth is sometimes ugly and unpleasant.90005 90002 The information presented in this article will upset or depress you to the degree that you resist it. 90005 90002 However, if you can accept the worst that life has to offer, not just the good, but the bad and the ugly too, without avoiding it, denying it, lying about it, resisting it or turning a blind eye to it, not only will you not suffer, but you will become smarter and wiser in the process. 90005 90002 Remember: Knowledge is power. If you know something you can do something.90005 90002 Footnote: 90005 90663 Angelina Jolie / Brad Pitt image credit: Jaguar PS / Shutterstock.com Bill & Hillary Clinton image credit: Anthony Correia / Shutterstock.com Jim Carrey image credit: Everett Collection / Shutterstock.com Madonna image credit: Denis Makarenko / Shutterstock.com 90664 .90000 Who is Harsh Strongman And What is This Blog About? 90001 90002 90003 Hello, 90004 90003 And welcome to 90006 Life Math Money 90007 — a website dedicated to helping you 90006 Get Rich, Get Fit, and Get Smarter. 90007 90004 90003 My name is 90006 Harsh Strongman 90007. 90004 90003 I believe in being 90006 healthy, wealthy, and happy 90007, and no, they are not mutually exclusive. 90004 90003 I am a 90006 financial consultant 90007 and a qualified 90006 Chartered Accountant 90007, which is India’s top Auditing and Finance qualification.90004 90003 I’m in my 90006 twenties 90007, I’m 90006 financially independent 90007, and you can be too. 90004 90003 I write about 90006 Health, Business, Money, Personal Finance, Investing, Social Skills, Body Language, and Self Improvement. 90007 90004 90003 You came here because you wanted to 90006 get more out of yourself 90007 — here you will find the tools and motivation you need to get started on your journey to 90006 freedom and prosperity 90007 and 90006 achieve everything you’re capable of 90007.90004 90003 I write clear, concise articles in a plain easy to understand language which means that you will find what you’re looking for without having to read in between the lines. 90004 90003 If you’re new, start with these popular articles: 90004 90003 90006 On Appearance and Personality: 90007 90004 90003 90006 On Entrepreneurship and Making Money: 90007 90004 90003 90006 On Focus and Productivity: 90007 90004 90003 90006 On Purpose, Fulfillment, and Gratitude: 90007 90004 90003 90006 Other articles you might enjoy: 90007 90004 90003 90006 You’ve come to the right place.90007 90004 90003 — Harsh Strongman 90004 90003 P.S. Do not forget to 90006 sign up for the weekly newsletter 90007 to have high quality articles delivered right to your email. 90004 90077 .90000 Thesis Statement Examples 90001 90002 A thesis statement is one sentence that expresses the main idea of ​​a research paper or essay, such as an expository essay or argumentative essay. It makes a claim, directly answering a question. 90003 90002 As you can see in the thesis statement examples below, you must be very specific, summarizing points that are about to be made in your paper, and supported by specific evidence. Generally, your thesis statement can be the last line of the first paragraph in your research paper or essay.90003 90006 Thesis Statement: Bad vs. Good 90007 90002 It’s worth reiterating that a strong thesis statement is specific. If you find yourself using general words like «good,» then you’re not digging deep enough. 90003 90002 For example, saying «European travel is a good way to spend your summer,» is not specific enough. Why is European travel good? Further examine the heart of your topic and focus on very specific areas of European travel that you can realistically cover and support with solid evidence.90003 90002 «Solo European travel requires independence which, in the end, bolsters personal confidence.» This is much more specific and targeted. Now, you can hone in your research on solo travel through Europe, the need for independence, and its positive effect on personal confidence. 90003 90002 Here are six more thesis statement examples for you to consider: 90003 90016 90017 90002 90019 Bad 90020: Everyone should exercise. 90021 — Why should I? What’s in it for me? 90021 90019 Good 90020: Americans should add exercise to their daily morning routine because it not only keeps their bodies at a healthy weight but also reduces the risk of high blood pressure.90021 — Here, we’ve made several specifications i.e. Americans (not everyone), the morning routine (not the evening), weight maintenance, and high blood pressure prevention. Your research actually becomes easier when you have very specific objectives. 90003 90027 90028 90016 90017 90002 90019 Bad 90020: High levels of alcohol consumption are bad for you. 90021 — This is too broad. What are the specific detriments of alcohol consumption that you would like to discuss? 90021 90019 Good 90020: High levels of alcohol consumption have detrimental effects on your personal health, such as weight gain, heart disease, and liver complications.90021 — Notice we got very specific in our reasons why. In your thesis statement, you do not need to state every single detriment you’re going to lay out (in fact, you should not as it will risk becoming a run-on sentence) but you can point to the main areas you will explore. 90003 90027 90028 90016 90017 90002 90019 Bad 90020: Reading can develop a child’s analytical mind. 90021 — Words like «can,» are not strong enough. This thesis statement begs the question of how? If you’re about to write several paragraphs (or pages) about a topic make sure you can confidently defend every point you make.90021 90019 Good 90020: Reading develops a child’s mind by fostering comprehension skills, increasing vocabulary, and exposing them to new worlds they might not otherwise encounter. 90021 — Now, we’ve not just stated that reading is good, we’ve provided a sampling of all the benefits we’re about to bring to light in our paper. 90003 90027 90028 90016 90017 90002 90019 Bad 90020: All retirees should relocate to Florida. 90021 — Your research paper or essay will need to delve into numerous supporting claims.This broad thesis statement runs the risk of allowing you to go off on several tangents. 90021 90019 Good 90020: Retirees should relocate to Florida, where 75% of Americans choose to settle, because you will afford yourself the opportunity to develop a wide array of friendships. 90021 — From here, you can introduce a paragraph on the importance of friendship and then cite studies or testimonials describing how people can discover these important new relationships. 90003 90027 90028 90016 90017 90002 90019 Bad 90020: The internet has improved the lives of many.90021 — Again, while readers may agree with this and your statement may be true, how has the internet improved people’s lives? Also, you should run your thesis statement past the «What’s in it for me?» test. Why should readers care? 90021 90019 Good 90020: The internet serves as a means of expediently connecting people across the globe, fostering new friendships and an exchange of ideas that would not have occurred prior to its inception. 90021 — While the internet offers a host of benefits, we’re choosing to hone in on its ability to foster new friendships and exchange ideas.We’d also have to prove how this could not have happened prior to the internet’s inception — and that is good. The tighter your focus, the better your paper. 90003 90027 90028 90016 90017 90002 90019 Bad 90020: Organ donors should be financially compensated. 90021 — Why? What happens to them that causes you to take this stance? 90021 90019 Good 90020: Given the grueling surgery and lifelong changes they endure, kidney donors should be financially compensated for their act of self-sacrifice.90021 — There are many forms of living organ donation. As with any good thesis, you want to get as specific as possible. Now, our stance is clear and the reader will understand that we’re about to describe the grueling process of kidney donation as well as any forthcoming lifestyle changes. 90003 90027 90028 90006 Finding Your Point of View 90007 90002 A good thesis statement is developed from the point of view of the reader. Be very careful you’re not developing a topic that is of interest to you alone.This is a harsh yet necessary question to ask yourself: will my readers have any reason to care about what I’m writing? 90003 90002 In the example about European travel above, readers might be interested in travel around Europe but will they be interested in solo travel, and greater independence and confidence? Hopefully, the answer is yes. Just make sure you examine all viewpoints before investing your valuable time in a well-written piece. 90003 90002 A thesis statement is powerful on two fronts.First, it allows the reader to get excited about what, specifically, is coming their way. Second, it stands as the point of reference for your entire paper. 90003 90002 Think of it as a loving mother steering her children away from danger. Essay writers run the risk of getting off track and wandering into thickly wooded forests of needless tangents. (This is also why a well-planned outline is essential.) However, a solid thesis statement will help keep you in check. Refer back to it and ask have you wandered off topic? 90021 Always Be Specific 90003 90002 When searching for a new home, realtors will tell you there are three important factors: location, location, and location.When developing your one-sentence thesis statement, it is important for you to be: specific, specific, specific. Write your thesis statement once and then rewrite it again with greater specificity. 90003 90002 Also, make sure your audience will want to learn these new facts and possibly embrace these new opinions. Now, you have a compass for your entire paper, keeping you safely on course. 90003 Thesis Statement Examples.90000 What can I do about the harsh and hurtful things my husband says to me? 90001 90002 We are sorry to learn of the frustration and pain you have experienced as a result of your husband’s hurtful words. It is distressing to be on the receiving end of very cutting and abrupt comments that wound one’s spirit. 90003 90002 Some people, for reasons known only to themselves, often speak to others in this manner. Sometimes a harsh and insensitive attitude shields a person who himself has been wounded by the remarks of others.In any case, we can understand the problems you are having. Remember that God loves you, and you are important in His sight. He loves you so much that He sent Christ to die for your sins. 90003 90002 As you focus on the fact that God loves you and considers you precious to Him, there will be a real difference in your life. Your sense of self-worth does not need to depend on the opinion of others. 90003 90002 Be sure you do not act toward your husband in the way he acts toward you. It is easy in a situation like yours to do just that.But that does not solve the problem-it only makes it worse. The Bible tells us, «A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger» (Proverbs 15: 1). It also says, «A wholesome tongue is a tree of life» (Proverbs 15: 4). Affirm and support your loved one in your conversations. Your example may help him to learn to do the same for you. Read also Ephesians 4: 29-32. 90003 90002 We would encourage you to find a time when you can speak frankly (and yet lovingly) with your husband. Perhaps he is not even aware you are hurt by the things he says, and although he may not be intentionally hurting you, he needs to be aware of your feelings.90003 90002 Communication is important in a good marriage, and you and your husband need to learn to share your concerns (as well as your joys) with each other. Read 1 Corinthians, chapter 13, and Ephesians 5: 28-29. Many couples have found the counsel of a Gospel-teaching pastor or Christian marriage counselor to be helpful in strengthening relationships and improving communication skills. 90003 90002 We would urge both you and your husband to examine your relationship with Christ. Have you committed your lives to Christ? Are you seeking to follow Him? If not, make that commitment now, and learn the joy of having Christ at the center of your marriage.90003 90002 When a husband and wife are truly seeking to honor Christ, they will not want to hurt each other-quite the opposite, they will want to encourage each other. As you pray and learn from God’s Word together, God will help both of you become the loving partners He wants you to be. 90003 90018 Let Jesus bring peace to your marriage-and your soul. 90019 90002 90003 .